Jess lanai

I’m going to be a little brutal with this post.

I think my porn psychology posts have gone a bit of the rail in terms of making any sense.

But they are meant to be vague outlines that I can return to later and add to.

I follow a lot of Only Fans girls on instagram. Why? Because they’re pretty and usually funny too.

So they are entertaining to have on my feed.

Because I follow a lot of Only fans girls I see their trends.

One of the trends right now is to post a text over a video of themselves looking skeptical that reads ‘OF girls this, OF girls that, what about the millions of men that watch OF girls?’

This was a psychology I saw way back in a galaxy far far away when OF girls didn’t exist and all we had was porn girls.

Porn girls used to say stuff like this.

It bugged me then and it bugs me now.

Why do people hate whores?

I guess people don’t.

Why does society hate whores?

It hates them for the same reason it hates overly commercialized mass production. For the same reason it hates the overuse of AI.

It’s stuff that sort of leaches off of our attention, focus and money without providing any true value. It survives by activating our most base desires.

But those base desires are meant to be motivation. When stuff leaches off those base things that usually provides our motivation to achieve basic things, our motivation gets totally occupied chasing things that will never get it anywhere.

Then by the time it comes across something of value, our motivation is all used up.

That makes it very easy to call things like porn evil. Society can shift a lot of blame to these things that relieve very basic needs.

I’m not posting this to debate whether or not porn is good or bad.

I’m posting this to talk about the psychology behind that thought process.

And why it’s so messed up.

Not even messed up for society. Fuck society. Society can be weird.

But how it messes up the girls that let themselves think that way.

There is a percentage of people that are psychopaths.

Like, they actually only care to get as much as they can by giving as little as they can.

But most human beings can’t get by like that. They usually have to lie to themselves. They have to feel entitled. Or they have to have their attentions and energies get so occupied that they’ve got nothing left.

By all that I mean to say, most human beings actually do have pride and honor and an inherent desire to contribute value to the world.

Porn girls and Only fans girls are a part of this humanity. They also have the human desires to be admired, respected and to make positive contributions to other human beings and the planet we all live on.

Our self esteem therefore gets damaged when society tells us we are not only not a contribution, we are a damage. A damage that should be done away with.

Porn girls and Only fans girls are usually more vulnerable to the opinions of society than they realize.

That is because there’s a lot of shadows on doing sex work. There’s the shadow on how it might affect a future career. There’s the shadow on how it might affect a future relationship.

There’s all these great and tall possible consequences blocking out a lot of sun and creating a lot of shadows of doubt.

When doubt, fear and the foreboding of possible consequences get in self esteem starts to take on some damage.

This what I’ve noticed happens when self esteem gets damaged. I’m not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. It’s just what I have noticed happens.

If self esteem gets damaged the first thing that happens is that the mind will try to repair it.

It will try to find the solution. Like, if I suck, can I suck less?

Porn girls and only fan girls get consistency bombarded with hatred. But it’s not loud hatred.

No one actually cares about the weirdos having temper tantrums on social media.

It’s all the subtle rejection.

People notice the things people don’t say a lot more than the things they do say.

It’s very easy to amplify the things people don’t say and imagine the worst case scenarios.

Which makes it very hard for a person whose mind has a lot of doubt and fear to find what it will consider a viable solution.

Which means the mind will change tactics and protect instead of solve.

It will shift blame for example by saying things like ‘what about the millions of men watching’

‘I’m just the supply to the demand’

To clarify I’m not saying porn is evil, I’m not talking about any kind of shoulds or shouldn’ts.

I’m just talking about what’s happening in the psychology and how it becomes damaging.

With comments like that the mind has given up. It has accepted terrible truths and now it’s simply trying to avoid terrible consequences.

It is a defense meant to shift the imagined consequences onto someone else.

And from there it can turn into a spiral of just digging deeper and deeper down while throwing consequences everywhere.

I’ve experienced this in fighting with friends.

The ‘I’m just the supply to the demand’ type thinking. Where everything I’ve done that is wrong I did because of the other person.

I’m trying to avoid the consequences.

And I’m trying to avoid them because I think they are catastrophic. The kind of consequences that will end everything.

That my only means of even surviving at all is to avoid the consequences.

That’s not always a bad strategy.

It’s a smart strategy.

We’re not moral machines, we are humans.

We’re smart. We can weasel our way out of a lot of consequences. Even out of a lot of impossibilities.

But what worming our way out of consequences is really bad for is being happy.

It’s a survival strategy.

It is not a be happy strategy.

Lots of porn girls and only fans girls will dig themselves into very deep pits of despair throwing consequences everywhere.

And it can be a very sad thing to watch.