Jess lanai

Finally I’m writing about something I’m an actual expert in.

First we need to define what a bitch is.

I am a bitch. But I am a good bitch. And bad bitches are not ugly. (Wizard of oz reference) So men do need help identifying them.

What is a good bitch?

A good bitch is a bitch to because she doesn’t like you. She’s not confusing or manipulative she just doesn’t care about you or your feelings at all. If she did she wouldn’t be a bitch to you.

I am a good bitch.

I’ve learned how to at least attempt to communicate. If I’m really interested in a man I won’t let it go or play any games, I’ll just face it and deal with it.

I see a lot of men that don’t seem to be very willing to feel emotional pain.

The type of man that doesn’t want to internalize rejection.

Everything is for an external reason.

These types don’t really seem to stop and consider other perspectives. They seem to think their perspective is the correct one and everyone who doesn’t agree with them is simply dumb or evil.

Put that mentality in a woman and what you’ve got is a bad bitch.

Most women aren’t bitches, they’re simply feral.

The majority of women are trying very hard.

Boundaries are blurry for most people. It’s very hard to learn how to find them let alone clearly communicate them.

Doing this blog is a form of that for me. A form of thinking and practicing communicating it in a way anyone can understand.

It’s very hard to do. Most people don’t realize how little they do that. How much time they spend just trying to say, think and feel the ways they think they should instead of how they do actually.

(If you haven’t noticed, actually is my favorite word)

Not every bitchy girl is incapable of internalizing her emotional pain. She just doesn’t know what to do with it. How to use it to get any results. So it kind of just stays trapped and keeps ricocheting back and forth making us look totally crazy.

A very large reason for doing my thirty day streak goal on this blog is just to have a goal.

Something to get done even if I don’t want to. Even if my emotions are bad. Even if all I have is doubt and I wonder what and why I’m doing anything at all in the first place.

A way I can shut up my mind and my emotions up and just do something.

Today is one of those days where I feel overwhelmed and just had to finish to finish.